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Rae Dawn Chong, sitchoassdown…

On Friday, SleazeMZ broke the story that Rae Dawn Chong went on a rant about Oprah, no last name needed, when asked on a radio show whether or not the Mighty O treated her badly on the set of “The Color Purple.” Apparently that’s all she needed to break the damn holding back all the hate she’s harbored for at least 28 years.

In an appearance on a radio show, Chong went on a rant about Oprah being a “biotch” and went so far as to say she would have been a “field nigger” if it were the old days. I would like to invite Ms. Chong to have all the seats in Cowboys Stadium. Every. Damn. One.

The hell?!

The hell?!

I realize that some of you may be a bit too young to be familiar with Chong’s body of work. The Canadian born actress is the daughter of actor Tommy Chong and the sister of the FOINE Marcus Chong. She got famous playing characters like Squeak in “The Color Purple,” Cindy in “Commando” and Tracy in “Beat Street.” IMDb credits her as starring and appearing in several other movies and TV shows. I’ve only seen the three I mentioned but I’m pretty sure somebody enjoys her work, she keeps getting it. What I’m not sure of is if she’ll get anymore work.

In every profession, there is a person who you don’t want to piss off. Ever. I’m not saying Oprah has the ability to make sure Chong will ONLY perform in community theater and Vimeo short films but, she knows a lot of people in Hollywood. Maybe Chong didn’t think this thing all the way through. Even if she did, who is she to do that? I mean, Oprah could buy and sell this chick several times over. Comments like “field nigger” and “house nigger” only serve to further divide folks and I don’t know, maybe make people who feel inadequate feel better about themselves.

Comments like this is why black women will never have nice things like equality and relevance and solidarity. Perhaps Oprah is a Type A personality who HAS to be competitive to stay at the top of her field. Maybe if Chong would spend her time being competitive and working hard like Oprah, “the field nigger,” perhaps she wouldn’t have peaked at “Commando.”

For the love of all things holy, unholy and involving black women of all hues, Ms. Chong, go somewhere, anywhere and sitchoassdown.

Yo, ‘Merica …

Around 10 p.m., July 13, these states of America showed just how united we aren’t. After two full days of deliberation, a six-woman jury in Sanford, Fla. found George Zimmerman not guilty of the second degree murder and the manslaughter of unarmed teenager Trayvon Martin.

While I am disappointed in the outcome, I am not at all surprised. This sham of a trial was over before it got started. There is the matter of a six-person jury of women, five white and one Latina. There is the weak case presented by the prosecution. And there is the case of the defense doing exactly what they were supposed to do – in court. Their antics outside the courtroom is another story altogether. Oh and add to that the fact that black boys don’t have the privilege of doing things like, y’know, walking to the store.

All of these things in addition to the dormant racism in this country combined to create a massive race war, of sorts, via social media. Twitter has been ablaze with racially charged hashtags while people have been posting rants on their favorite video sharing sites while vile memes have been circulating throughout Instagram and Facebook. And if that were not enough, people have been outright losing friends on Facebook. I need for everybody in ‘Merica to take a Chill Pill with a tall, refreshing glass of Calm the Hell Down.

Take two of these and call me in the morning.

The short of it is white people will never understand what it is to be a person of color. We look at things through our own experiences and if they’ve never had them, they can’t possibly understand. And let’s face it, some don’t want to understand. There is a large segment of citizens who deny that racism still exists. Wherever you fall, be respectful about it. Spewing racist language and innuendo won’t solve anything nor will it advance race relations. When in doubt, shut your mouth.

Where for art thou, journalism?

RIP Michael Clarke Duncan

Yesterday afternoon, devastating news of the death of actor Michael Clarke Duncan broke on Twitter. Given my background in journalism and my inability to quit it, I still follow several news outlets on Twitter – mainly CNN, NBC News, CBS News and the Associated Press. On my other account, I follow Fox News, ABC News, the Huffington Post and all of the aforementioned.

As a journalist, I have been conditioned to use discernment as it relates to the news. In most cases, you can tell when something has been reported or made up – if you read it and not just glance. The way I learned journalism was to make sure you’re right before you go forward with any information. While it matters who reports it first, it matters most who got it right – first.

Since we’ve been blessed with the wonderfully wonderful tool that is the internet, the journalism profession has been cursed by it. It seems young journalists have become satisfied with Tweeting (see also: Facebooking and Instagraming) the majority of their story and any Tom, Dick, Harvey or Perez fancies himself a journalist because he has a blog and an audience.

Yesterday when the news broke, by the AP if I’m not mistaken, I ReTweeted the AP’s information. I saw so many RTs with comment calling bullshit thinking that Twitter just up and killed someone for no reason. Some people wanted to know who the source was and who Duncan’s fiancĂ©e is (Rev. Omarosa Manigault). One fool even Tweeted:

I shit you not …

Since when is the AP NOT the AP? I mean, CNN has gotten it wrong. CBS, wrong. NPR, wrong. ABC, NBC and damn sure Faux News. In my 10-year journalism career, I have never heard about the AP getting anything wrong. In fact, I am bold enough to say the Associated Press is the worlds MOST CREDIBLE news source, yet, that wasn’t good enough for Twitter.

This is what I like to call the TMZ era of journalism. It’s a time where people won’t believe actual news until it’s reported by TMZ or MediaTakeOut or Perez Hilton or whatever other gossip BLOG is masquerading as a news site. It’s really sad. There are way too many of my friends, colleagues and former counterparts out here busting their butts to bring folks well-reported and (hopefully) balanced stories for credible news outlets than to have their work and efforts bastardized by those sites.

Since I have been periodically offering you all my “expertise” in journalism, take this with you. When it comes to news of any kind, international, national, local, entertainment, sports, politics – rest assured knowing it has been properly reported and fact checked. To question the AP is … I don’t even know what it is. Just know that 9.9 times out of 10, they’re right. *smh*

“It’s one thing for people to THINK you’re stupid, it’s another when you open your mouth and remove ALL doubt.” (c) Mama Smarty

Majoring in the minor …

Usually on Mondays, I try to give you all a little motivation to help you make it through your day and hopefully, your week. The events of late Thursday night/early Friday morning and people’s reactions have forced me to make a detour and make an attempt to try to slow some of you people down.

To catch you up, a lone gunman shot up a crowded movie theater in Aurora, Colo., killing 12 and wounding more than 50. The suspect has been identified at 24-year-old James Holmes, a Ph.D. student who entered the theater in riot gear armed with gas canisters, an automatic assault rifle, a 12-guage shot gun and a glock.

Reports state that Holmes threw a canister and started shooting people as they tried to flee. Survivors recalled the attack saying they thought it was a part of premiere night antics and then it quickly turned into chaos complete with screaming and blood and horror. I don’t even want to imagine what they much have been going through. My heart and my prayers go out to everyone in that theater and to the families left picking up the pieces.

There were families in that theater, some with children as young as three months, who were hurt. If I’m not mistaken, the youngest murder victim was 6-years-old. This leads me to the first portion of my sickness with people’s reactions on Twitter. Some folks were questioning why there were babies at the movie theater anyway and why kids that young were at a theater that late at night. *smh* To me, this is akin to blaming the victim.

I don’t have kids. I know quite a few people with them, tho. I’ve been to the movies with my siblings and cousins who, when they can’t get a babysitter, simply bring the baby with them. It’s no crime to take your children with you to a movie. It’s ignorant and insensitive to blame those parents for their children’s injuries and death. This is a case of wrong place/wrong time. It’s only Holmes’ fault – allegedly.

Another thing that I’m seeing a lot of is comparisons to the senseless murders in Chicago. Last weekend alone, Chicago saw the death of four and the injury of 27 more, all at the hands of gun violence. That was just in the past three days. Twitter and Facebook have spoken out asking how come the country isn’t just as outraged at the deaths in Chicago. Twitter and Facebook have also made this into a black and white issue saying if Holmes was a man of color, he would be dead already instead of just in jail. Twitter and Facebook have even gone so far to say that Holmes is being viewed as mentally ill because he’s white and if he were black or Latino he’d be seen as violent or if he were a Muslim, he’d be a terrorist.

We have to stop majoring in the minor. He is a terrorist regardless of his race. A terrorist is a person who frightens or terrorizes others. If that isn’t Holmes, allegedly, I don’t know what is… And, these shootings in Chicago are being reported as gang related. These gang members are also terrorists. The difference here is this is a case of Chicago’s chickens coming home to roost. The problems of these violent gangs should have been nipped in the bud a long time ago. What Chicago is seeing now is a manifestation of disregard on the part of law enforcement and neighbors and a strengthening group of frustrated, under-served and increasing violent generation of people. Comparing the shootings in Chicago to what happened in Aurora is like comparing apples to tomatoes – they’re both fruit but not the same.

And FYI, Holmes is a suspect and what he did is alleged until a jury of his peers convicts him. The media’s hands are tied as it relates to these kinds of cases. No outlet can call him a murderer or a terrorist outside the confines of quotation marks because it then becomes libel and slander and those outlets can be sued.

What are your thoughts? Are too many people majoring in the minor?

I fell off …


There’s no other way to put it. I haven’t been working out. I’ve been eating like a colleges student who has the metabolism of a toddler and I have dia-damn-betes. I have no one to blame but myself. I’ve lost motivation. Since I haven’t been to the doctor since October, I have zero accountability. I feel awful – literally and figuratively.

Since I started my new job, it has taken SO much out of me! I literally crash like every other week. What I am experiencing is beyond “a little tired.” I am exhausted and I am not sure of how to fix it. I’ve been trying to do better with eating. I think I’m in transition where nothing tastes good and I’ve lost my appetite. I find myself eating something just take my meds.

I recently joined the local Black Girls Run group to make an attempt to get motivated about working out again. I’ve got to do something. I mean, this is a matter of life and death, right? How do you stay motivated to eat right and work out?

I am Trayvon Martin …

In all I have 10 nieces and nephews, four god kids and a bunch of kids who call me Aunt Tiff. It’s a job I take very seriously. They all range in age from 19-8 months so you can imagine how saddened I am at the murder of Trayvon Martin. Yes, I did say murder and I know that must confuse some of you. I am, after all, a proponent of letting the justice system work. I am also in possession of common sense and I heard the 911 calls.

I heard about Trayvon’s shooting early on and I refused to read up on it. When I heard about a 17-year-old boy being shot, like a lot of others, I assumed it was some senseless act of violence on a teenager that was performed by another that would soon be swept under the rug. Man was I ever wrong. As time moved on and more information started to come out about Trayvon’s shooting, I learned that a neighbor shot and killed this young man for “looking suspicious” the more pissed off I got.

I have a 17-year-old nephew. He’s tall, he wears hooded sweatshirts and would probably walk to the store at night alone to get some candy for his baby sister. He is also a good kid, has played team sports and odds are he’s probably already been seen as threatening. That baffles me. My nephew, like Trayvon, is a kid in a man’s body. He’s not a threat to anything, except maybe leftovers. They are perceived as threats because they are black. No other reason.

I refuse to do the whole, “If he was a white boy thing…” because it’s not at all helpful. What is helpful, tho, is to let you guys know that not all young black men are scary. They’re not all suspicious. And they shouldn’t be hunted like prey. George Zimmerman went out, against the advice of the dispatcher and against the statutes of the Neighborhood Watch and he hunted and shot down Trayvon like an animal.

It is my understanding that Zimmerman called the police 46 times last year and is the self-appointed block captain. He has harassed people in their own home and has been arrested for assault. He was licensed to carry a concealed weapon but he was not in any way licensed to pursue anyone. From the sound of things (his 911 call), Zimmerman was tapping into his inner cowboy. Instead of observing and reporting, like he was supposed to, Zimmerman took it upon himself to follow, then shoot Trayvon. Why Zimmerman is still free I’m not sure.

My hope is that the authorities down in Florida realize that the country is watching and will send a message one way or the other. Will they send the message that violence against people based on how they look will not be tolerated? Or will they send the message that you can pursue AND kill people who look suspicious to you?

Frankly, I am disgusted at all of it. I’m disgusted at Zimmerman’s desperado act. I’m disgusted that he feels like he can make that snap judgement. I’m disgusted at people defending him saying that he’s defending his neighborhood. Most of all, I’m disgusted at the people who believe he was justified. This is in no way shape or form justifiable. Trayvon was shot and killed for being the wrong color in the wrong place at the wrong time. Sadly, this could have been any of us at 17. Hell, it is all of us now. These are our kids and they are a part of all of us so I am and you are Trayvon Martin.

Father your children…

For the past couple of days the interwebs have been all abuzz with foolishness about Chris Brown’s fans and Too Short’s “fatherly advice” to young boys. Clearly, I missed something.

Millions of these children Tweeted about how they’d “let Chris Brown beat” them. They were of course referencing the incident of domestic violence between him and his then girlfriend, Rhianna. I know it was a while ago but we can never forget. I, of course, can’t blame Chris Brown for the foolishness that happened during his performance at the Grammys. I can, however, blame these lil’ girls, lil’ gays and their parents. While there are those of us who can not let it go, there is no way these girls, and gays, should be joking about letting him beat them.

As was stated here before, I have zero tolerance for domestic violence. While Brown has paid his debt to society by doing as mandated by the court, there are some folks who just won’t ever forgive his actions. I get that. I also get that to some of his fans, he can do no wrong and they still lust after him.

Kids will be kids but parents have to be parents. I’m sure some of these parents could not possibly have known what their daughters were saying. I insist that they need to find out, particularly fathers. I’ve discussed that fathers have a responsibility to their daughters, and yes, their gay sons, too, to show them how they should be treated while dating. They need to actually sit down and discuss with them what is and isn’t acceptable. The fact that these children even Tweeted the words, “Chris Brown can beat me up…” is both frightening and sickening.

As a father, you need to explain that it’s never OK to even joke about domestic violence. There are too many folks who have lost their lives for it. You need to explain no matter how fine he is or how well he sings or dances that it is NEVER OK for a boy, a guy, a man to put his hands on you in a violent manner. Ever. Grab your daughters and your gay sons, hug them and show them how a man is supposed to treat them.

If that’s not enough motivation to parent your own damn kids, Too Short has taken to offering up fatherly advice to young men about “how to turn young girls out.” O_o Yea, that Too Short.

Why is his old ass still relevant enough to grace the web pages of XXL in anything but a historical retrospect of Bay Area rappers? The last time Too Short was relevant was whenever “Shake Dat Monkey” came out and it had ratchet chicks from near and far shaking it up in the club.

Apparently in a video posted on XXL’s site, Too Short told young boys transitioning from middle to high school, in graphic detail, how to sexually stimulate their female counterparts – forcefully. Far be it from me to bait anyone on any issue but from what I read and heard about the video because I didn’t see it, it is akin to assault. The Grio quoted Too Short saying in the video, “You push her up against the wall, you take your finger and put a little spit on it and you stick your finger in her underwear and you rub it on there and watch what happens.”

First of all, any father of a daughter should be outraged and ready to string Too Short up and flog his ass for suggesting any boy do that to a girl. That statement suggests that he is an advocate of sexual aggression and that attention uninvited is in fact rape. How dare he suggest and describe that for young boys? His suggestion to the boys gives the impression that girls don’t deserve to decide whether or not they want this attention. It suggests that these boys seize their opportunity whenever they feel like it. I can’t, no, I won’t sit, stand or walk for this kind of bullshit.

This is why you monitor what your kids are watching online. Nothing good can come of minors watching anything Too Short-related. The man raps about hard life and pimping in Oakland. He has never discussed a single thing in his music that would imply that he respects any woman. I will say that he issued an apology via video on the XXL site. He covered himself by saying he was in “Too Short” mode and that these young boys should just be themselves and not get caught up in “hip hop personas.” O_o

Fathers, when it comes to your sons, it is your job to do exactly the opposite of that bullshit Too Short spewed in that video and in his music. It is up to you to explain to your sons that no is always no. Explain that women are to be respected and treated like human beings and not property there for their lustful fantasies. Tell them that rappers like Too Short are all persona and that the life they rap about and perpetuate is but a caricature. In other words, father them. Father all your children.

As a father, as a man, you are charged with being the leader of your family. You are the one who shows your family the way. If you are not cutting the path and leading the way, they will latch on to someone who will. The problem with that is they could latch on to someone who doesn’t know where the hell they’re going. Your family is your responsibility. When you fail to parent your children, you have failed them and us, too. Step up and do your job.