“What other people think of you is not your business.” (c) Deepak Chopra #Oprah #Lifeclass
As of late, I have found myself tuning into Oprah’s Life Class. Every week, she has on a different member of her dream team. We either get Iyanla Vanzant, Tony Robbins, Deepak Chopra or Bishop T.D. Jakes. A few weeks ago, we got them all. And we’ll get them all again tonight.
While I can certainly pick out something I got from them all, I have to say that it was the above quote from Chopra that really stuck out for me.
As people, we tend to get caught up in other people’s opinions. Some of us live to please our parents, our families, our friends and sometimes, total strangers. The entire entertainment industry was created and continues to thrive based on other people’s opinions and we have fallen for it.
We force ourselves into fads and such in an attempt to make sure others have a positive thought of us. We tend to suppress our feelings in an attempt to be accepted by people we probably shouldn’t be associating with on any level. Each person regardless of race, creed, color, height, weight, whatever – have this organic need to be accepted. Crazy thing is a lot of this can be combated if we accept ourselves.
People are supposed to be different. In just about any way imaginable, we were all designed with similarities but obvious differences. Instead of embracing our differences and celebrating them, some of our counterparts choose to zoom in on these differences and make people feel unwelcome or like they don’t belong because they, themselves, feel out-of-place. Because they are uncomfortable in their own skin, their job then becomes to make you feel the same way. Here’s a newsflash for you, nobody can make you feel anything without your permission.
What people say, what they think is not your business. Let them talk. Let them think. Let them do their thing and you do yours. Your business is what you think of yourself. Your business is accepting you so that you don’t have to go out in search of other people’s opinions of you. You don’t need ‘em. Making you feel inferior is THEIR business. Going on about your life without regard to their thoughts is YOUR business. Mind YOUR business.